We have all been exposed to the familiar saying, 'Love yourself first'. In fact, most of us have heard it, but, probably never taken the time to actually analyze as to what it really means. Psychics hear daily how people want change, but, seldom to people want to take the action necessary to make it happen.
This topic is interesting because people say it often and while we all seem to know what it means, there is no real explanation of just how to accomplish this enormous task. The person saying this to someone who is experiencing anguish, elevated anxiety, hurt, fear, frustration or depression, is usually unaware of the effect this comment can have on its recipient. Sometimes people who say this are exasperated with the person having difficulties because they do not have the skills or training to really help solve these issues.
Most of the time when we hear, "You have to love yourself first", the person saying it is trying to help. Unfortunately, what often actually happens is just the opposite of the intention behind the comment. The emotional damage increases as the person experiencing the pain feels even more alone.
People need to realize what message they are really sending when they say well-intended things. The person receiving it can feel that you really don't understand the pain they are feeling, which can cause them to withdraw into themselves because no one understands.
1. I'm frustrated because I don't know how to help you
2. If only you'd do what I tell you to do, everything will get resolved
3. I can see that you need to take an action and quit sulking
4. I can't fix it for you so I don't want to hear about it anymore
Generally, the person who is in trouble recoils, feels rejected and begins to isolate themselves because they are not being heard which results in the pain increasing. That's when psychics usually hear from clients; when they are at their wit's end and want help in resolving the problem.
What people really need in these challenging situations, is to begin the process of treating the 'self' well. This means they begin by taking the first step of action. Below is a metaphorical story that is easy to understand:
Most parents will react immediately to a child that is being assaulted by other children. Their built-in instincts force them to rush in to save the child from a bad situation. They will usually removed them quickly, find out if they are physically okay, then hug them in a re-assuring way until they calm down. They have in effect saved the child's 'self' from further altercations.
Adults can also get beat up on the playground of life, and, we have to learn to save our "selves". When adults get into difficult problems, they tend to get stuck and hope that, in time, things will change on their own. We buy time, longing for our situation to right itself, while continuing to endure pain and suffering.
The reason things don't change is because they didn't take any action. These types of situations tend to repeat themselves until all is black and the bottom seems to drop out. Depression sets in and a sense of hopelessness takes over. They tend to try to unload the bad feelings by talking about it over and over to anyone who will listen. This type of behavior pushes people away. Why? Because they see the person drowning when all they would have to do is take a step in the right direction in order to change it, instead of taking appropriate action like the ones listed below:
1. Taking your "self" for a walk, changing your residence, changing a job or career, removing your "self" from the negative behavior of a friend, relative or lover.
2. Do things like getting involved in something you have passion for, like a hobby, taking that class, or finishing a degree.
Psychic readings can help people see that you are only as trapped as you feel. They try to open up the person so that they, too, can see that they have the ability to change the situation. Professional psychics will get you to see that hope is not a good strategy and that it is up to the person to take the step that has been pointed out to them.
Loving yourself first is the only option you have if you want others to love you back.
This topic is interesting because people say it often and while we all seem to know what it means, there is no real explanation of just how to accomplish this enormous task. The person saying this to someone who is experiencing anguish, elevated anxiety, hurt, fear, frustration or depression, is usually unaware of the effect this comment can have on its recipient. Sometimes people who say this are exasperated with the person having difficulties because they do not have the skills or training to really help solve these issues.
Most of the time when we hear, "You have to love yourself first", the person saying it is trying to help. Unfortunately, what often actually happens is just the opposite of the intention behind the comment. The emotional damage increases as the person experiencing the pain feels even more alone.
People need to realize what message they are really sending when they say well-intended things. The person receiving it can feel that you really don't understand the pain they are feeling, which can cause them to withdraw into themselves because no one understands.
1. I'm frustrated because I don't know how to help you
2. If only you'd do what I tell you to do, everything will get resolved
3. I can see that you need to take an action and quit sulking
4. I can't fix it for you so I don't want to hear about it anymore
Generally, the person who is in trouble recoils, feels rejected and begins to isolate themselves because they are not being heard which results in the pain increasing. That's when psychics usually hear from clients; when they are at their wit's end and want help in resolving the problem.
What people really need in these challenging situations, is to begin the process of treating the 'self' well. This means they begin by taking the first step of action. Below is a metaphorical story that is easy to understand:
Most parents will react immediately to a child that is being assaulted by other children. Their built-in instincts force them to rush in to save the child from a bad situation. They will usually removed them quickly, find out if they are physically okay, then hug them in a re-assuring way until they calm down. They have in effect saved the child's 'self' from further altercations.
Adults can also get beat up on the playground of life, and, we have to learn to save our "selves". When adults get into difficult problems, they tend to get stuck and hope that, in time, things will change on their own. We buy time, longing for our situation to right itself, while continuing to endure pain and suffering.
The reason things don't change is because they didn't take any action. These types of situations tend to repeat themselves until all is black and the bottom seems to drop out. Depression sets in and a sense of hopelessness takes over. They tend to try to unload the bad feelings by talking about it over and over to anyone who will listen. This type of behavior pushes people away. Why? Because they see the person drowning when all they would have to do is take a step in the right direction in order to change it, instead of taking appropriate action like the ones listed below:
1. Taking your "self" for a walk, changing your residence, changing a job or career, removing your "self" from the negative behavior of a friend, relative or lover.
2. Do things like getting involved in something you have passion for, like a hobby, taking that class, or finishing a degree.
Psychic readings can help people see that you are only as trapped as you feel. They try to open up the person so that they, too, can see that they have the ability to change the situation. Professional psychics will get you to see that hope is not a good strategy and that it is up to the person to take the step that has been pointed out to them.
Loving yourself first is the only option you have if you want others to love you back.
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