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Building Self Esteem: 5 Essential Ways To Direct Your Thoughts Toward Success

By Joshua Graham


Self esteem and confidence are two traits that every athlete must possess in order to remain competitive and
consistent on the field. Low self esteem and low self-confidence can make an athlete nervous, anxious, and/or depressed about his game. Encouragement, praising performance, and rewarding athletic achievements can boost an athlete's self esteem and confidence, not only on the field, but also in life.To encourage a young athlete, parents and coaches should use both verbal and non-verbal forms of communication. Encouragement can come in the form of a spirited locker-room pep talk or a simple handshake and smile. Stern facial expressions and harsh language from the sidelines can make an athlete nervous and fearful of making a mistake. When an athlete is forced to focus entirely on his own performance, he or she can fail to pay attention to the game and the other athletes around them. When this occurs, an athlete may find that the more they're discouraged, the more they hesitate, leading to even more discouragement, and more hesitation.

Building Self Esteem.The Elderly are very vulnerable when they are at the mercy of a Nursing Home. If the Elderly are used to living at the Home and have a strong personality then they will feel reassured about speaking out and having self-esteem. But if they are new to the Nursing Home, or have a change in their care plan needs because of their own health then it is most likely that their Self Esteem will need to be reassessed.

To take away their independence and to take over their care takes time for the aged to adjust to their new way of life. It is a lot sometimes for the aged person to get used to. Most times the Elderly person was very independent at home and moving around freely but then end up needing care because their health changes, their eyesight changes or they have a fall and break bones. Once they feel like they are no longer able to take care of their daily living then their self-esteem is soon affected. It will become obvious that they have low self-esteem, and it will become very important for the aged well-being to have their Self Esteem Built back up.

Be careful about having too many assumptions. Assumptions can lead you astray. Assumptions are beliefs that you take for granted. This means that you don't question them and assume them to be true. People in general are pretty logical. They get into trouble when they assume certain wrong things to be true. Examine your more cherished beliefs and test them.The above ideas and principles will help you take control of your mind and direct your thoughts towards success. They require dedication, work, ambition and a lot of patience.I have posted an earlier article (7 self esteem boosters for children) which gives an outline of how the parent or the caregiver can help. Now I want to inform you on how to take action on the theory. I'll walk you though how I do it. You will be able to look over my shoulder and do the same.

These are generally father and son activities, but many of them can work equally well with daughters and mothers participating.This article will show you how to create and enjoy activities which help in building self esteem in children.How to plan to spend time with your children,How to choose and plan an activity to do together,Doing the chosen activity together,Joining a community,Letting the children fly.Holidays are perfect for spending time with the children. Often though, you have to plan to make this time. This is your choice. You and you alone are the one who controls your time. Time is not something you can save or bank for a later day. Time is your life, now! I'm extremely lucky as I work from home. Therefore, I can plan my own time. I sleep for 8 hours, work for 8 hours and that gives me 8 hours to play. I'm able to plan to spend 2 to 3 hours on each day of the holidays on activities aimed at building confidence in children. This is the first step; you must make the choice how much time you will spend with the children on the activity.

So what can you do together? Well that of course depends on the age of the child. It could be sand castle building or vegetable plot creation. Make a list of different things you could do together. See what will attract your children. I find it great fun, to surf the internet together, to seek out activities on your list and see how the children respond. The children love this responsibility and it is a good start in building self esteem in children. If they do not get excited, then never mind, move onto the next activity on your list. I've been surprised at what ages the children pick up different activities and let go of others. Our two boys were still playing with their Brio wooden train set long after we had built a WWII battlefield complete with Hornby trains and airfix models.

Self-responsibility neither implies moral blame nor guilt, but should foster a curious inquiry into how and why your life is the way it is. Look for solutions. Ask what assumptions, beliefs, or attitudes motivated your choices and behavior, and what actions can be taken in the future.Avoiding self-responsibility puts you in the role of a helpless victim, waiting for others to change, so that you'll feel better. That never works in the long run, because we can't change others, and even their accommodation to our needs only provides a temporary lift. The other extreme - feeling you're responsible for everything that befalls you can also injure your self-esteem. Blaming yourself for every accident, illness, and mishap presumes an unrealistic level of control. Nor are you responsible for someone else's abusive behavior, but you are responsible for your response to it. Instead of asking why did he or she did that, ask "What beliefs do I have that allow me to permit it?" "What boundaries do I set?" "How can I better protect myself?" "What may happen if I don't change my response?"

Keeping promises to yourself is as important as keeping promises to others. We all know how it feels to be disappointed when someone does not keep their word. When you give yourself your word, and do not follow through, your spirit is disappointed. If you do it enough, you find yourself in a self fulfilling prophecy that says "See, nothing ever works out for me, I told you it wouldn't".You are probably familiar with the feeling that comes with the victory of following through on a successful mission. Ask someone who has quit smoking or lost 20 pounds. They kept promises to themselves and saw results. Now think about the times you told yourself you were going to do something and didn't. It wasn't the forces of nature working against you. It was you letting yourself down. That's a withdrawal.

I've observed many times someone saying to themselves that they are going to start exercising and eating right, only to continue right on eating the same way and not attempt any physical movement. They are then discouraged and complain that they can't lose weight. You have seen this too. I have worked with students who say they are going to make better grades, study and do their homework. They do not follow through, do not improve their grades and then say they just can't do well in school. You have to put action behind your words or they don't mean anything.




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